About

It all started with a near death heartbreak.

I know "death by heartbreak" is not really an option on a death certificate, but based upon the agony I was experiencing I didn't know how it could be possible to survive something that was hurting so much!

My marriage of twenty years was coming apart, it had been heading in a difficult direction for a while, we had been working on it and I was thinking things were going better, then in an incredibly short time it was as if it all dissolved almost overnight. In some weird twilight zone instance I was catapulted into "the Void" and overnight my whole reality was upended. The dream I had cherished and nurtured since childhood died. The pain was unlike anything I had ever experienced before.

I decided then and there I would learn all about what was causing this, how it could be different, and how I could take that information to others to save them the pain and so they may more easily know joy. So I set about on this mission to bring together everything I could to help create a resource that empowers people to achieve wellbeing and joy in their relationships.

Goals

  • Reduce Divorce by 50%

    Recent science has found the keys to relationship happiness and we help couples learn and apply them

  • Increase “Very Happy” Marriages by 50%

    Increases in relationship knowledge and skills result in happier relationships

  • Increase Childhood Happiness by 50%

    Children who grow up in more functional families are happier and learn better how to manage life

About Me

Todd Smith

Amazing bluebird day in Mammoth with the kids.

Some of the best days of your life have not happened yet.

I was born in Vietnam during the war to an alcoholic substance addict mother and a narcissistic anger issues father. I knew trauma from day one. Crazy was the norm.

It has taken me over fifty years to get to a place in my life where I was able to understand it and how it had impacted the way I was in relationships. A lot of direct first-hand experience of a pretty intense kind.

In my professional career I have over thirty years experience in corporate training and education; creating and delivering training materials and courses to help others achieve success in their work. Helping others achieve success is my professional passion.

Over the years I have supported the education of thousands of people through sales, customer success, job skills, soft skills and technical training programs I have developed and conducted. If you would like to see more about my professional background, please feel free to check out my LinkedIn page.

Along the way I learned a great deal about how to help individuals and organizations achieve success. Here at Art of Attachment I bring together my knowledge and understanding of attatchment with my passion for education to help teach people how to have healthy happy relationships.

I look forward to applying those knowledges, skills and experiences to helping you achieve success in your relationships; and be able to have a healthier, happier, more joyful life experience together.

About The Approach & Methodology

I Was Looking for a Holistic Solution

I have done over a decade of therapy over my life and tried dozens of different approaches. Each approach is amazing and trailblazing in its own area of focus. However, each one only focuses on one part of the puzzle. The cognitive and behavioral, left out the emotional, the emotional left out the cognitive behavioral, and most did not give any attention to the physiological. So I started thinking about how to bring them together in a holistic way that would blend them systematically together and help be able to get the best of them all together.

A Full Stack Model

So I created a holistic blended systems approach that combines the best of the best from leading researchers into one comprehensive approach. It starts with the foundation grounded in Attachment Theory, it then layers in the impacts of trauma and physiological aspects, after that it adds the emotional, then cognitive and behavioral, and lastly tops with the potential for spiritual and greater connection.

A Clear Defined Process

We also use a very clear and defined process, this isn't endless open ended talk therapy, this is focused skills building coaching. Typically estimate about seven to nine months of weekly sessions to complete the program.

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