Does Love Feel Harder Than It Should?

You care deeply and try hard, yet something keeps getting in the way.

Differences escalate instead of resolve. Emotional distance creeps in. The same painful patterns repeat, even when you try to "communicate better" or “do all the right things.”

If this feels familiar, you’re not broken — and your relationship isn’t doomed.

You’re simply caught in unseen patterns that are driving your behaviors and impacting your relationships. With help, support and education they can be understood, softened, and changed.

You Can Rewire Your Relationship

Keep the faith; it is absolutely possible to rewire your patterns to ones that will bring both of you the feelings of happy, healthy, wholesome love you are seeking.

  • Attachment-Based Science

    Our approach is grounded in decades of research from attachment theory, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and relationship science.

  • Practical, Real-World Tools

    Clear frameworks, guided exercises, and step-by-step tools you can use immediately to interrupt destructive cycles and create safer emotional connection.

  • Compassionate Guidance

    No blame. No pathologizing. Just understanding, empathy, and a clear path forward — even when things feel messy or stuck.

The Art of Attachment approach is based on the latest findings in Adult Attachment Theory, Emotion Focused principles, and the Dynamics of Healthy Relationships. These are some of the most cutting edge and effective new ways of understanding how we form, grow and sustain mature loving relationships as adults.

These principles are based on groundbreaking and validated new understandings that are different from previous Cognitive Behavioral approaches that focused on talk therapy and could involve years of work with little to no significant change in behavior or experience.

By learning to address and incorporate these new understandings of how our childhoods formed the foundation of our relationship behavior we can for the first time truly be able to achieve the peace, loving relationships, and the sense of connection and joy we all seek deep inside.

Imagine What it Could Feel Like…

  • Before

    • Feeling unseen or misunderstood
    • Repeating the same arguments
    • Emotional distance or shutdown
    • Walking on eggshells
    • Fear of losing the relationship

  • After

    • Feeling emotionally safe and understood
    • Conflicts become calmer and more productive
    • More closeness, vulnerability, and trust
    • Secure, reliable communication
    • A renewed sense of partnership and hope

Services

  • Individual Coaching

    Working with individuals looking to find and create a healthy, happy, love relationship.

  • Couples Coaching

    Working with committed couples looking to build a healthy, happy, joyful relationship.

  • Classes & Workshops

    Virtual live courses, eLearning courses, and fun weekend retreats.
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About Todd

Amazing day in Mammoth with the kids :-)

I grew up in a highly dysfunctional family environment, it has taken me over fifty years of personal development to grow out of that past. I have dedicated myself to helping others learn and grow faster than I did.

Some of the best days of your life have not happened yet.

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The Book

Get the book to learn in more detail about key concepts related to relationships, as well as the seven step Art of Attachment process that can help steer a way forward towards healthier and happier relationships.

The first Section of the book, "Understanding Relationships," provides an overview of the leading theories and therapist who have been making substantial advances in understanding what drives our human relationships, and how to do it better and more effectively.

The following sections of the book provide an outline of seven steps to take to help repair a struggling relationship, or learn to start, grow and nurture any love relationships.

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How Can I Help?

Please reach out with any questions or if there is any way I may be of help.